Hey, Sis! Today, we're diving deep into the cosmic currency that is peace – that elusive state of tranquility we all crave. We crave it but can we afford it because here's the tea: PEACE ISN'T FREE. Nope, it comes at a price, and we're about to spill the secrets on how to afford it in the chaos of life. Buckle up, beautiful souls, because we're about to embark on a journey to unlock one of your superpowers – peace!
Many women (and men) desire to live a peaceful existence but have no idea where to start. How do you even begin to pay the price? Here is the realest answer I can give you…. “NO.” Saying “No” to things, people and places that disrupt your calm is the first investment in your peace journey. That simple two letter word is the best tactic in setting boundaries that protect your mental and emotional well-being. No, no, no, no.. practice it, get comfortable with it, accept that it is ok to give that answer to whomever it needs to be given to without worrying about what they will do with it. It's your, No. You can use it as you see fit.
After you have paid into Peace with your boundary setting, NO, your next investment will be making difficult decisions. This will require significant boundary setting and prioritization of self. And there is a major learning curve, when figuring out how to CHOOSE YOU. If you are wondering what that looks like, here’s the facts, it will look different for all of us. However, there are always situations, especially for women that require us to put others before ourselves, whether that be our immediate or extended family, our job, faux obligations, etc. Now to be clear, I am not telling you to go through life selfishly. I am only advising that the decisions to put others before you that leave you feeling nauseous, bring you anxiety, keep you up at night, or have you questioning why may need to be handled differently. These are the decisions that aren't prioritizing you or you wouldn't be thinking about them once they were made. To break free of this peace prison, you will have to ask yourself some challenging questions about why those decisions or series of decisions didn’t serve you. Then comes the hardest part, the action for change…. You will have to effectively communicate your choice to prioritize your peace moving forward. This is when the price tag will show. What might it cost you? Will it cost you a relationship, a friendship, a position? Just remember, as you begin to move in the direction of freedom, you really can't afford not to prioritize your peace.
You might feel some guilt at first, as folks get acclimated to the version of you that is seeking peace. But stick to your peace treaty, you will see your life improve, your mental health improve, your strength improve. You will become so comfortable in protecting your space and minding your thoughts that the price of peace will seem a reasonable cost for the level of calm you have established in your life! You will basically become invincible, and Peace will be your superpower.
Stay fabulous, Sis! Stay focused! Until next time, keep shining, keep smiling, and keep embracing the superhero within!
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