So, unpopular opinion, I think resolutions are a trap. Just another promise we make to ourselves with unrealistic deadlines. I mean think about it, even the timing in which we have made up our mind to do something different or refrain from something is based on the Western World’s timeline, someone else’s timeline. The timing isn’t personalized and that is only my first grip as to why many of us are unsuccessful. We set these goals January 1 and by February 22 they have long left our daily patterns, hearts, and mind. Why is that? Now to be clear, I am a huge fan of goal setting but something about the New Year’s resolution trend doesn’t speak to me. For a long time, I didn’t understand why but a few years ago I was able to put my finger on it… Resolutions are the end goal, and they leave out the journey, so it makes it almost impossible to reach our destination. After you resolve to do something, you actually have to do the work, the actions, take the journey. You have to change how you think! That path from resolving to the resolution is called GROWTH. In order to be successful on that road, you must have a growth mindset and bandwidth for some adversity. Let’s explore this more.
- Building a growth mindset is an ongoing process that involves intentional effort. Intentionality and what you decide to give energy, give life to will make all the difference once obstacles arise. I recently posted on social media a quote that hit me like a ton of bricks. “We aren't focused on change, in 2024 we are changing what we give light to.” When applying a growth mindset to goal setting or resolutions, you have to understand anything you give energy to will grow, the good and the bad.
- Just like anything you want to grow, you must submerge it in the environment to do so. This is no different for you when you are trying to grow and change. Surround yourself with people that are better than you and be receptive to growth tips. Everything someone says is not hate, sometimes it’s just truth. Learning from constructive criticism and using feedback as a valuable source of information will help refine your journey and get you to your end goal that much quicker.
- Growth mindset most importantly is being present and celebrating the process, not just the end result. The best part of the growth process is the journey. When setbacks happen, view them as opportunities to learn and to build resilience. If the end resolve is worth it, its not going to be easy. Be present in your journey. Appreciate everything you learn along the way.
- Lastly, to move beyond resolutions and to really begin to grow, we have to celebrate others, celebrate their journeys, goals, and successes in a major way. Reside in that winning energy, it will only improve your journey, your intention, your goals!
So to conclude my good Sis (and Bro) resolutions are wrapped in a growth mindset One that is watered and nurtured through self-awareness, self-acceptance, the beauty in the journey, the energy you put into something, and the company you keep. Reflect on your actions, thoughts and beliefs. Remember that setting goals is great but it's the not the speed or distance that’s important but the process that actually gets you the best end result.
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